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Happy Easter 2014

At least it hasn’t been 24 months! Though I’m being pulled in a bazillion directions, writing is always on my mind. It’s not something that I can get away from nor do I want to but in my desperate attempts to make my family’s lives better, I’ve missed out on major signs and lessons.

There is hope though. I’ve learned so much this past year, about myself, my husband, my children, my friends. I’ve learned that I can’t make everyone happy, nor is it my job to. Friends are going to move, people are going to come in and out of my life and I can’t change that. Nor can I change jobs/work opportunities that come flitting in and out of my life. What I can change and focus on is what makes me happy and how I can keep that joy in my life.

I have a very blessed life. A husband who, after 11 years of marriage, is still my best friend and I his. Two beautiful children who are growing up to be compassionate and kind souls. Friends, family and fans who support my seemingly numerous career paths I have tried the past 2 years. I thank everyone for that because it really allowed me to find myself and figure out who I enjoy being and what I love to do.

Within the past twenty-four months I have developed a business plan, opened a business, was a substitute teacher, sold a business, fell onto another business and finished a novel. What I learned from all of this? I really enjoy leather work and I LOVE writing/editing/anything to do with the printed word! I love my imagination, my creativity and the freedom that it allows me. I also enjoy getting to know other author’s, editors, illustrators, agents and fans. It’s a very enriching field if you allow the positives to flow into your life and block out most of the negatives.

The moral of my story is that I’ve finally figured out my career love, the people who allow my light to shine and I can bring light to theirs. A place where I feel like I fit in and don’t have to explain myself. A love that is reciprocated and never ending. I hope that you have found your unconditional love, that “thing” that drives you every day and makes you wake up with a smile and a song in your heart. And as always, Life is meant to be fun, enjoy the journey!

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Stress, we all have it

We all have stress. It’s as common and as natural as breathing. Don’t get misunderstand me, I didn’t mean that it wasn’t uncomfortable and at times, down right painful but so is childbirth yet it’s still a part of our lives. Stress is nothing new, though it’s been given a proper name just in the past 100 years. The types of stress we have dealt with have changed over the decades, most of us not having to worry about hunting for our food to survive or skinning enough animals to keep us warm during the freezing winter nights. The stresses we deal with have evolved and changed, adapting to our ever altering lives. We will never be without it yet can we learn how to properly deal with it or allow it to rule, possibly ruin our lives?

I am a very optimistic, very open, very loving person. Though I didn’t used to be. In my twenties, I was a very self-centered, very selfish and driven person. Everything I did or participated in was for my benefit, one way or another. My stresses back then were how fast, how far I could climb up the career ladder and having the best toys, the best vehicles, the best horses, the best of everything. I hit a brick wall when after receiving a prestigious award, was told by the owner of the dealership I worked at, off to the side of course, that I would never become the manager because I was a woman. My stress then morphed into what am I going to do with my career now, when I have invested so many years in this industry, only to find the ceiling for my advancement was lower than it was for my male counterparts.

Fast forward to my thirties. I took a hiatus from my career and accepted a temporary job at my sister’s company to get perspective. I moved my father out of his retirement apartment and in with me. I began searching for peace and stress free enjoyment. I met Steve. Those who know him know that he is completely opposite of me. I am very type A personality, a go getter, a planner, excessively controlling. He is laid back, everything always works out, it will still be there when I finally decide to deal with it, what’s the hurry, type personality. To coin the phrase, he was my ying to my yang. He taught me how to relax, to take joy in the world around me, the people around me and if you were quiet long enough you could see things change and grow, to blossom into beautiful things. It was because of him that I began to believe that I might be a good mom.

Flash forward one more time. Here I am in my forties with two beautiful girls, still married to my Steve, building a new career. I still have a drive to climb the career ladder and I still have stresses, just read a couple of negative reviews that I have received recently, but I have learned to surround myself with beautiful and calming friends. I know I am going to run into those who judge and criticize because as we ALL know we can’t please everyone but I’m learning how to defuse this new stress, how to turn my head and focus on something else that is blooming and changing. In this world of negativity, I choose to post only positive reviews. If I can’t “fill someone’s bucket”, as my 8 year-old would say, then I choose not to say anything at all. There are professional reviewers out there that know how to correct and properly review an author’s book without being insulting and crass. They know how stressful being a professional writer is and to their own credit, act professionally too.

As we start heading into our summer months look at the stresses you have, see which ones you can set aside, which ones you have to address, which ones you can just let go. See if there is someone who’s bucket you can fill. Not only are you creating a joyous feeling that helps counteract stress for someone else but it’s been proven that it can eliminate or ease the tension in your own life. We all have stresses and will until the end of our days but it’s how we handle it that matters. Go fill someone’s bucket. Life is meant to be fun, enjoy the journey!

Spring-a time of change

It’s been a crazy, wonderful, insightful week. My book sales have taken off, (thank you very much), we are almost completely moved and to celebrate my daughter’s eighth birthday we presented her her first horse. It was absolutely wonderful to see her expression, to see the tears in her eyes and watch her joy as she brushed and lead her new horse around.

The side effects of all of the above? I’m feeling the desire, the drive to produce another best-selling book, my new house is a mess and it’s hard to find things and my youngest daughter has now decided that she needs a pony so that she can enjoy the fruits of horse ownership. Usually with all of these changes and new pressures I would tend to start stressing which is what caused my poor health a few months ago. I will admit, I was up at 2 am, starting to fret but then remembered the blessings that had occurred the past couple of months and I took a deep breath and relaxed. Everything will work out the way it should be. If I relax and enjoy the blessings now it will be easier for other blessings to flow into my life.

Once we become adults and realize the world doesn’t revolve around us we begin to worry. As we become parents and spouses, that worry and stress grows larger. Now our world revolves around our children, our partners. I’m vowing to relax and not worry so much because honestly, even if what I worry about comes true, will the worry have prevented it? We know the answer to that. But nine times out of ten, the circumstances I worry about don’t come to fruition and the stress and worry were for naught and I missed out on enjoying the little things I should have been paying attention to.

As spring rolls into summer and things are starting to change, are you able to adapt and adjust as easily or are you stressing about how things are going to be taken care of, if things will be done the right way? During this time of change for all of us I hope that you remember that life is meant to be fun and you should enjoy the journey!

To think or not to think?

New Year’s resolutions are starting to lose their appeal and the holiday for love is coming up. We are caught up in the stresses of filing tax returns, bills coming in from Christmas shopping and what to do for that special someone in our life on Valentine’s Day. Or, if you are not in a relationship currently, how to avoid all the mushy affectionate couples that tend to go a little overboard with their public affection. In my last blog, I hoped that I brought to your attention the most important person in your life and hopefully you will give them their just deserves. You won’t regret it. In this blog, I’d like to hear a goal, desire, fantasy, dream that you’ve had or set for yourself this year, no matter how far-fetched it may feel to you.

I honestly believe that the things you focus on the most are the things that you will bring more of in your life. You’re emotions regarding those things will also have an effect on what transpires in your life. Being a fairly positive person, I tend to focus on the blessings that I have, my healthy, beautiful, intelligent children, my loving husband, the house we are able to live in, the cars we drive, the food on our table. It’s because of my focus on the positive that I believe so many miracles have appeared in my life recently. But I am human and my worry about finances tainted my focus on the positive and that’s exactly what I brought in, more worry and fear. For the first time in our married life, we had the first month of no income, no paychecks. Let me tell you, it has been a hard lesson but a lesson it is. A week ago I began refocusing on the positive things in my life and lo and behold, things started turning around again. It was a hard lesson and a scary one but also one I won’t ever forget. I think the hardest lessons in our lives are the ones that tend to stay in the fore front of our memory.

So now I am focusing on being a best-selling author, a nurturing mother, a fantastic wife, a wonderful friend and an amazing author. It not only feels better emotionally but I’m able to reap the rewards of focusing on the positive. So now I invite you to tell me about the blessings in your life, the goals you have set, the dreams you have. And always remember, life is meant to be fun, enjoy the journey!

Spoil yourself for Valentine’s

I’ve spent many years alone on Valentine’s Day and the past nine with the love of my life. I am truly grateful and feel blessed that I have my husband but I have to be honest, it took me 32 years to find him so I’ve lived through this holiday more often alone than with that “special someone”. It’s an obvious fact that this is a holiday that celebrates couples and partners but what if you were to tweak that perspective just a little? What if you were to see it as a celebration of your life, of how much you love and appreciate yourself?

You are the only person in this world that can take care of and nurture yourself the way that you need. No one else can possibly know your most inner thoughts, pain, joy, hopes and dreams, that’s privy to only you. So who better to treat and pamper you than you? And talk about the best time to do it! Chocolates are everywhere and it’s socially acceptable to indulge on them! Flowers are on sale, being delivered and smell divine! Why not send yourself a beautiful bouquet and have it signed, “A secret admirer”? It’s really nobody else’s business who your admirer is and you honestly should admire yourself. After all, there is only one of you in the entire world, isn’t that amazing? Take yourself out for a fabulous dinner and a movie afterwards. If you don’t like to do that by yourself, why not get a bunch of girlfriends together and have a girls’ night. Or order in, jump in your pj’s, grab a good book and a chilled bottle of wine and curl up on the couch. Tune out the rest of the world and just pamper yourself. This is the exact way I plan on spending my Valentine’s. Steve has to work that night and so once I put my children down, I’m grabbing my Kindle and indulging in a good story that I’ve been dying to read.

Running out of books? May I be so bold as to suggest one of mine? My newest book, Love’s Everlasting Song, I wrote because not once but in two different relationships I’ve caught the person cheating. The pain is so excruciating and so devestating. But I know that with every painful experience something wonderful comes from it and that is how I wrote this story. It is a classic, tender, romantic story that has it’s painful moments, as does life, but also offers hope and happy endings. And it’s a story that you wouldn’t be embarrassed to turn the page on! So if you want that sweet romance for your Valentine’s celebration, please check out my novel, Love’s Everlasting Song, on Amazon and show you how much you love yourself this holiday!

http://www.amazon.com/Loves-Everlasting-Song-ebook/dp/B006L74IW2/ref=sr_1_7?ie=UTF8&qid=1327783486&sr=8-7